A Sobering Moment Of Reflection
I had planned a post today that was going to describe my auto financing experiment. Well, something happened yesterday that made me move that post to Wednesday. I need to discuss something that has put what I am doing into perspective. There was a harsh reality check that really is getting my mind thinking and I will be making some changes. Hopefully you will stay with me through the entire post. It is somewhat long.
The Lead In
I play hockey in a league every Sunday night during our seasons. I really enjoy it and it lets me step away from technology for a bit. Either way, yesterday my wife decided that she would like to come and watch my game. They are usually later at night, but this one started at 5. Since my son doesn’t go to bed until 7, he would be able to come and enjoy the game. These times make me a happy man.
My game ended at 6 and we were on our way back home. We won the game by the way :). As we traveled on the highway, we got into a big traffic jam. Traffic was backed up, which is not typical for the time of night. We rounded a corner and noticed a lot of flashing lights. There were so many emergency vehicles and then I noticed that no cars were coming from the other direction. I knew there was a bad accident. It was on the other side of the highway, which is 8 lanes, so that means the accident was blocking four lanes of traffic.
We were able to pass by the accident pretty easily, but I noticed that there were two cars just crushed. Then I noticed the coroner van. Damn, that means there was a fatality. That fact enough if sobering, but then my wife jumped on her phone to get more information from out local news channel.
A Sobering Reality Check
As my wife started reading the article, I just got a lump in my throat. We know that one person was killed in the accident. One driver asleep at the wheel in the slow east-bound lane, then his car crossed over all four lanes, went through the metal barrier, and smashed into a car heading west. The driver that got hit was killed. Truly sad.
The one fact that got me was that this accident happened a matter of minutes after me, my wife, and son were on those same west-bound lanes. Yes, if we would have left just a few minutes later to travel to the game, that could have been us. We could have been hit by the car. This fact really smacked me in the face.
Thinking About the Future
I have been thinking all night about this close call. While some might not call it that close, it has really rocked me to the core. I can’t get it out of my head. Because of this, I have decided to make some changes.
When my son was born, I created a schedule to run this blog and do all of the other things that I needed to. I made it a priority to not get on the computer or connect when my son was awake. I just wanted to spend time with him and didn’t want technology to get in the way. It has worked well for the past year. I want to make another change to my schedule.
I have been laser-focused on growing this blog, cutting my expenses, talking about money, and creating wealth. I was all wake up, take my son to daycare, work, spend a few hours playing with my son, then writing until I passed out. I was just focused on money and success, but I forgot about one important factor: life! I have forgotten what is most important in my life and the people in it. I was focusing on time with my son, but I was forgetting my wife and family.
Some of you may have seen that I don’t post much on Tuesday and Thursday as of late. I left those days open for guest posts, but due to the amount of spam emails I get, I have stopped guest posting unless it is from bloggers that I know. I am now planning on keeping this schedule on a regular basis. I am only going to post on Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday. If something strikes me or I need to put up something interesting, then I will. I am also bringing on two staff writers that will start in February.
I am taking this new schedule and spending it with my wife and son. She typically goes to sleep early and I am late night person. I am going to spend my nights with her until she goes to sleep. That is when I am going to pick up my computer and do work. I have been doing this some nights, but not all. Yes, I might not be able to get as much work done, but that is not the point. There is more to my life than this blog and making money. I need to refocus my priorities and I am starting now. Debt Roundup isn’t going anywhere, but I am just putting myself into a routine and working when my family is asleep. This is what I am going to do.
It is sad that a tragic event had to come around for me to get my priorities straight, but it is what it is. I am truly sad that this happened and the loss of a life. It is truly sobering and really should make you think about what your priorities are. I know I have and am making a change.
Do you have your priorities straight? Does it take something jarring to get you to rethink what you have been doing?
Photo via Miguel Virkkunen Carvalho