For those that are unaware, my wife and I are about to have a baby (Boy!). It is t-minus 3 weeks until the expected arrival date and I am very excited, yet nervous. I am a very detailed planner that needs structure. I like to have a game plan for everything, with backup plans for those plans. I have always been this way, but it has been magnified since I started getting out of debt (planning budgets, baby!). This aspect of me has always irritated my wife. She plans nothing and I mean nothing, so it is left up to me. This aspect of her irritates me, but we balance each other out pretty well. Since I have known that she was pregnant, I have been planning like a mad man. The problem is that I have no idea what to expect and I need some advice.
The first trimester was a good one for my wife. She didn’t have morning sickness or feel bad, so we consider it a win for her. I was busy starting my baby planning with what we need to purchase, what we can get from friends and family, and how well I think I am going to be as a parent. The beginning was a busy time for us, and my brain was on overdrive.
I put together lists of everything that I think we needed. I read blogs, articles, magazines, and books (my wife’s “What to Expect When You’re Expecting“) about babies and parenting. This was extremely overwhelming. I found that there are so many different methods and ideas that I couldn’t come up with a happy medium. If you are planner, then you know how not having a solution can be stressful.
This time was also pretty good for my wife. She started glowing, growing, and showing. People were so happy to hear about the baby and that is when the questions started coming.
Are you going to create a nursery?
Are you going to move?
Are you going to take time off from work?
Are you going to be a stay-at-home parent?
Are you going to find a second job?
What daycare are you going to use?
When’s your baby shower?
etc., etc. etc.
These were just a small fraction of the questions that my wife and I received. When I get questions, I like to find answers. I took to my books and articles to get a grip on what needed to be done. ”What was best for myself and my family?“, I asked myself. I just needed to come up with the answers that suited my wife and myself.
Third and Final Trimester
The home stretch. We are currently in the last trimester and my wife is now considered full term as of this post, so baby debt wrangler can come at any time. The last two months have been busy, very busy. We have been buying things left and right, getting the nursery together, getting arrangements for daycare, and piecing together the odds and ends.
As the day gets closer (at least the estimated day), I am wondering what to expect. I know that many indicate that I should enjoy my sleep now, but the unknown is what is keeping me up at night. Planners don’t like the unknown and I am no exception. I like game plans, strategies, and paths toward my goal. Having a baby is about to throw a wrench into my planning mindset.
Don’t take that comment the wrong way, I am EXTREMELY excited about having a baby. I know that there is no perfect time to have a child, but I feel this is the best time that I can come up with. I just wish I had a little more control over what is about to happen. Now, I just need some advice to ease my mind.
To all of you who have had children, do you have any tips or tricks?
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